About lovlov
For the relationship that matters most
lovlov helps you understand, nurture, and strengthen your relationship, on your own or together with your partner when you both want to.
Our vision and mission
A world where everyone can live their best life through loving and being loved in their closest relationships.
To help people everywhere build the relationships they want and deserve, so they can live their best lives.
Who it is for
Relationships often go through phases, and what your relationship needs can change along the way. lovlov is a tool designed to support you in any of these phases, on your own or with your partner if you both want to take part.
The Honeymoon
- Learn what matters most to each of us
- Talk about where we both want to go
- Build habits that keep us close
Everyday Happiness
- Keep the good things good
- Share the good moments
- Make time for each other in busy weeks
Reality Takes Over
- Stay close in everyday life
- Make room for us, not just the logistics
- Adjust when life changes around us
Something Is Off
- Check whether I am overreacting
- Understand what has changed between us
- Bring up the little things that bother me
Growing Distant
- Stop having the same argument
- Feel seen by my partner again
- Find out where we misread each other
Stay or Go
- Understand what is really going on
- Find a way forward together
- See whether this still fits the life I want
These are situations you may recognize, not a fixed sequence.
Why it exists
Love is rarely the missing piece.
Our closest relationships shape how happy and healthy our lives can be. More often, patterns within us and between us keep good intentions from becoming care the other person can actually feel, and few of us were ever taught to see them.
- Every need is valid, but no relationship has to meet every need.
- What gets in the way is often a pattern within us or between us, not a fault in either person.
- Understanding yourself and your partner matters, as does handling challenges together in ways that work for both of you.
- What we need, and how our patterns show up, can change with the moment and with life.
Why it matters
Few things shape how long and how well you live as much as your relationships.
~50%
higher odds of survival
Across 148 studies, people with stronger relationships had about 50% higher odds of survival.
Holt-Lunstad et al., 2010+32%
risk of early death
Across 2.2 million people, social isolation was linked to a 32% higher risk of dying early.
Wang et al., 2023+32%
risk of stroke
Loneliness or social isolation was linked to a 32% higher risk of stroke, and 29% of coronary heart disease.
Valtorta et al., 20164.2×
more likely to catch a cold
People with the fewest types of social ties caught a cold about 4.2 times as often as those with the most varied ties.
Cohen et al., 199760%
of the healing rate
Wounds of couples with a lot of hostility healed at about 60% of the rate of couples with little.
Kiecolt-Glaser et al., 2005Marital quality
linked to better health
A meta-analysis of 126 studies found that people in higher-quality marriages tend to have better health.
Robles et al., 2014General scientific findings on relationships and health. Not claims about lovlov.
What lovlov does
The Test
What matters to each of you, where you misread each other, and what keeps coming back.
About the Test
The Toolbox
Reach each other every day and keep the good things good, at your own pace.
What you get
Your privacy
We never sell your data, and we never share it with advertisers.
Our privacy promiseWho is behind it
I am building lovlov because I was missing something to help me nurture my relationship in everyday life.
Over the last ten years, health has become my passion, and for me that includes how happy we are with our lives. It took me far too long to understand how much our closest relationships matter to that.
The challenges a relationship brings have often overwhelmed me, and I still often reach my limits. Looking back, that is no surprise: I never learned what a great relationship would look like for me, how to be a good partner, or even how to handle the challenges that come up over time. Alongside couples therapy, I needed something I could turn to every day, in the ordinary moments when things get hard. That is what I am building with lovlov.
I have been building companies for eighteen years, and I have made more than fifty angel investments, many of them in health. I believe healthy relationships are the foundation of a good life for everyone, whether with family, children, a partner or friends.
What lovlov is, and what it isn’t
What lovlov is
- An everyday companion for your relationship, on your own or together.
- A private space to understand what is really going on.
- Grounded in relationship research.
- No subscription. The basic test is free.
- No real name or address needed.
What lovlov isn’t
- It doesn’t replace therapy or a diagnosis.
- It isn’t built for acute crises or trauma.
- It doesn’t tell you whether to stay or go.
lovlov is not built for acute crises, suicidal thoughts, or trauma. If you are in danger, thinking of harming yourself, or in acute distress, please reach out right away to your local emergency services or a qualified therapist. You don’t have to carry that alone. Find help near you